Where do you get your inspiration from? My journal; I knew half way through it that if I published it I could prevent other children from suffering as I did. Also, I realized that I see many children with the disease I had and very few doctors are aware of its danger or how to treat it. I am sure that once one of those brilliant minds reads this, they will find a way to diagnose it early and how to treat it. Body Dysmorphia IS a deadly disease. The only reason nobody knows that is because the autopsy will always read, “suicide,” or “overdose,” not knowing the initial disease that led to the death.
What is hardest – getting published, writing or marketing? Marketing, for sure!
What marketing works for you? I let you know when I find one!
Is your family supportive? Do your friends support you? My parents are supportive; they knew I had to do it. My siblings and extended family were mortified, ashamed, embarrassed for me. I don’t know why; I wasn’t. But I guess you learn who’s got your back once you write a controversial book. I have to give Kudos to my husband. Of all the people that had any reason to be against this book, he is the only one. He not only supported me, and loved me through the writing of the book, he helped me with the computer end of it, brought home dinner the days I was working on it. I must have done something right to deserve him.
What other jobs have you had in your life? I was a Registered Nurse but when the hospitals all went to computer charting, due to the brain damage caused by my head injury I was unable to comprehend the system. I recall everything I learned from before the accident, but have trouble learning new tasks. I was a yoga instructor for a few years, but my favorite part of yoga is turning off the brain, so now I’m a substitute instructor. I highly recommend yoga for all of you like me, who have a “monkey mind,” where thoughts jump from one to another like monkeys swinging from tree to tree. Yoga is great in getting that under control.
If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be? Anywhere as long as my husband and dogs were with me and my parents nearby.
How do you write – lap top, pen, paper, in bed, at a desk? Lap top.
How much sleep do you need to be your best? Ten hours.
Is there anyone you’d like to acknowledge and thank for their support? My husband.
Every writer has their own idea of what a successful career in writing is, what does success in writing look like to you? For me, learning that my book has gotten doctors to specialize in this disease, and they find a way to determine which children have this before any suffering has happened. Perhaps a DNA test; maybe they will identify a gene like they have for some cancers.
Tell us about your new book? What’s it about and why did you write it? At age 35 I was still suffering from things that happened in my life when I was ten years old. When I heard, I think on Oprah, that one way of getting rid of negative thoughts that repeat like a recording in your mind, was to write them down, I tried it. As the words left my mind and onto the paper, so did the pain, suffering and humiliation. Half way through the journal, I realized I had to publish it to prevent other children from feeling the way I did, wanting to commit suicide at ten years old. I was more afraid of living than I was of dying, I wasn’t afraid of pain, physical pain was much easier to deal with than the emotional pain I was living with, but I was Catholic. I knew this life was painful, and sad, but it would end one day. Hell was for eternity. Catholics are told if you commit suicide you go to hell I no longer believe that, but I did at ten years old. I had body dysmorphia, I was told a lie and it stuck. I was told that I wasn’t pretty and nobody would ever marry me. It didn’t hurt my feelings, it terrified me. I didn’t know any ugly people. Everyone was beautiful, what happens to ugly people I wondered with fear. Then one day when I was 12 years old, I had sex with a seventeen year old boy and for the first time in my life, while he was on top of me, I felt beautiful. I became addicted to sex immediately and did it with anyone, anywhere so I could have that feeling. The book describes my childhood, including signs to look for in your own children, my teen years when the drugs and alcohol are needed to lower inhibitions, some crazy sexual experiences including porn sites and swing clubs, my marriage through to my recovery. It is a self help book but some of the sex is explicit, and therefore is a book for adults only.
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Genre – Biographies & Memoirs / Self-Help
Rating – R
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